My views on modesty.
Modesty is something i feel very strongly about. i’m not talking modest to the point of covering every inch of your body with clothing. if you are a girl and you want to wear a cute dress that doesn’t go down to your ankles, go for it! but be smart. don’t wear something that when you bend over, your butt or your chest hangs out. with some girls it’s difficult, i’ve been a bigger girl my whole life and sometimes keeping everything in is a little difficult, but it can be done.
“Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.” - 1 Timothy 2:9-10
Another point i have is (i couldn’t really decide which bible verse would fit best here, but there are numerous that discuss this issue) is causing others to slip into sin. when you leave the house, i feel like everyone should look at themselves and decide if what they’re wearing could cause someone to slip into sin. i’m not going to lie, when i get dressed up, i like to put on makeup, wear cute clothes, and make myself look what i define as good, but i DO NOT want anyone to fall into sin due to me. i make sure everything is put away and covered, my skirt/dress may be above my knees, but it’s never considered “mini”, and if too much of my top is showing, i’ll wear a cardigan over whatever i’m wearing. it’s really not that hard. when girls wear things to show off their bodies it just pains me. girls are worth so much more than that. they don’t need to go around strutting their thongs, bras, or body parts.
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” - Song of Solomon 8:4
Christian girls who have boyfriends and say they’re going to remain “pure” until marriage yet fool around with their boyfriends in every other way legit disgust me. This may come off as horribly judgmental, but i’ve been THAT girl. i haven’t been a Christian that terribly long, and even when i became a Christian i slipped up, but recently i have dedicated myself to seriously remaining pure. my personal decision is i’m not even going to kiss my future husband until the day we’re married. i’m not saying this is a decision every girl has to make, but for me, this works best. my reasoning behind this is i’ve made many mistakes in that area of my life, and i don’t want to slip up. the way i look at it is, kissing is fine, but eventually it’s not enough, and you want more. then you start heavy kissing, and then the hickeys start, and then comes the touching and sooner or later, you’re in bed having sex and afterwards you’re crying not knowing how you got there. some people really are fine with just kissing, but i have heard far too many stories of CHRISTIAN people who have made the mistake of premarital sex. it breaks my heart. i don’t want to be one of those women who regrets it, and i don’t want any other Christian girl to go through that pain.
Sexting and dirty pictures.
i have so many problems with these two things. i would literally like to shake some girls because i don’t understand how in the world think that it’s okay. when you want to remain pure, why would you give yourself that temptation? do you want yourself to fall? have more respect for yourself.
You’re worth more!
Girls need to understand, you do not need to reduce yourself to nothing. i have been that girl. i have done things i regretted, but God changed me and He can change anyone :). when i get sad, and i get lonely, i remember God has a man out there that is going to love me no matter what. this man isn’t going to care that i won’t kiss him until our wedding day. i will have a Godly relationship and i will be the happiest woman in the world. girls don’t need to throw themselves at their boyfriends. they don’t need to keep going farther and farther with their boyfriends when they realize that kissing isn’t enough. they don’t need to send them those dirty pictures or say those things to keep them strung along. the right man won’t make you do any of those things. be strong girls and let God love you and let Him give you the perfect man :).